Being a forty-something wife, mother and grandmother I find my recent mini mid life crisis somewhat interesting!
Half of me wishes to stay young and trendy, longing for those bygone days of carefree living and enjoying life to the utmost. But the other half of my personality is OK with the idea of becoming a ‘mumsy’ mum and grandma, letting go of all that came before and resigning myself to the fact that I may end up with a life filled with knitting, dog walking and busy nothings.
If you are of my age then you too may find yourself sifting through the memory box in your brain, sorting through which memories to keep and which ones to erase. This memory is a good one – that memory is too painful so you’ll let it go. You look for the answers to life’s questions among those good and bad flashbacks. Who are you? Where are you going and what is your purpose in life?
When you are young do you realise that those few precious good times are it? that’s all you’re going to get because the rest of your life is going to be swallowed up by bills, kids, family crises etc? Of course you don’t and perhaps that’s just as well! But as part of the process of growing up we must learn from those good times and bad or suffer the consequences.
We can absorb all the advice we are given when we are young by parents, grand parents, wise old owls and teachers but it is up to us as adults and individuals to act on that sage advice. The legacy of my own family’s “words of wisdom” was passed down to me and I mixed it up with the little wisdom of my own that I had to learn the hard way and dished it out to my own two children.
So as responsible parents maybe it is our sole purpose in life to impart a little of that “stuff” that we have learned over our short lifetimes to our own flesh and blood and hope that just at least a little of it is taken on board and acted upon. If a family member had said to me at the age of eighteen “buy property it will stand you in good stead for the rest of your life” would I have listened? No of course not! I thought I knew it all.
To give our children the best times we can while also letting them make their own mistakes isn’t easy. To let them achieve goals and find their own direction, to be there when they fall down and hope that we have to help them up less and less as the years pass, to hold their hand in times of need and know when is exactly the right time to let that hand go. All of this is only learned from years of experience. Yet eventually they too will grow up and give their own children the best start in life and then all we can do is sit back and let them go safe in the knowledge that life is indeed too brief and a little wisdom goes a long way!
By the way kids buy investment property it will l stand you in good stead for the rest of your life!